Been away a bit

[Anonymous]

Hey all,

I hope everyone is happy & well.

I've been away for some time, and hardly contributed to the forum ...I've been extremely busy running my company, looking after my poorly wife, and hitting a personal wall. Damn those bricks are hard!

But having realised I need a little help, I've been to get it. It's not really that much fun, but it's saved me from a trip to the very local beauty spot. It's a 565ft drop. And wow what a last view!!!!

My Foster Dad did it in a Chrysler Alpine. In 1981 Neither survived...(No Airbag ever would have helped...)

Do me a simple favour. If any of your friends are down, unhappy or just plain miserable,don't dismiss it as being shitty.

Get a few minutes alone and be the friend that saves their life.

Sorry for the intense post but it's important.

Love too you all.

Davie

 

[RCZ1]

Hi Davie

Sounds like you have been through the mill a bit fella. You sound like one of the lucky ones, who recognised that something was wrong and sought out help before it was too late. Good advice you give there about friends not dismissing people who may be going through a hard time. A five minute chat can make all the difference going though a rough time and feeling alone. Sometimes the only thing they want, is to talk. I hope you go on ok Davie.

I also hope your wife's health is improving.

Take care

 

[Anonymous]

It takes a strong person to recognise and seek help and boy am I glad that you did!!

I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties that you have encountered (but overcome) and I dearly hope that you are close to being enveloped in the light that I know awaits you at the end of the tunnel.

My very best wishes to you and your wife and I thank you for your moving and heartfelt post. Stay strong and my thoughts are with you.

 

[Anonymous]

Good to have you back Davie! Hope you're doin' ok. How's Puss?

 

[RCZash]

Thanks for that. I know it would not have been easy to write. Glad you have come out the other side, and now know life is for living and enjoying no matter what is thrown at you. I know you do not know me and we are not there in person but we are with you.

 

[Anonymous]

Suspect that I have a clue with how you was feeling. RCZ1 and her fantastic other half helped me enormously. Yes a good friend can make all the difference.

I hope that you, your wife and your puddy cat are doing so much better now

 

[RCZ1]

Suspect that I have a clue with how you was feeling. RCZ1 and her fantastic other half helped me enormously. Yes a good friend can make all the difference.

I hope that you, your wife and your puddy cat are doing so much better now

Isn't that what friends are for ?


Blog: http://rczandme.wordpress.com/

 

[Anonymous]

This post and the real lack of comment from everyone is an example of the human response to depression.God bless you sir.Puts ownership of a car etc in perspective.

 

[RCZ1]

This post and the real lack of comment from everyone is an example of the human response to depression.God bless you sir.Puts ownership of a car etc in perspective.

Your best post yet wrapper :thumbup:

Unfortunately what you say is true. People do not know how to deal with depression as "it's all in the mind". The mind is a complex thing and it's a very fine line we all walk between sanity and insanity. Unfortunately it's a little close to home at the moment and I've learnt a lot about the mind and how it works over the past year. Trying to understand it all however, is something I think, that I will never be able to do, however much I try. I witness on just about a daily basis how a "dysfunctional" mind affects people and their behaviour. We should all count our lucky stars that it doesn't happen to us.


Blog: http://rczandme.wordpress.com/

 

[mason5465sharon09]

We lost our son a few years ago & my god we really needed our friends they were there for us, we hit a very dark place at the time, we have come out of the other side now hence why the RCZ came along, stay positive Davie & I wish all the happiness to you & your wife :thumbup:

 

[hanswuk]

Hi Davie, I hope things continue to get better for you. I consider myself extremely lucky never to have been in such a dark place but one never knows what life will throw at us so none of us can ever say it'll never happen to us. It's coincidental and especially poignant for us that your post has come just now because having recently completed training, tonight is my wife's first time doing service as a Samaritan.

 

[Anonymous]

What a valuable and heartfelt piece of advice. Unfortunately mental health issues are not an easy topic to discuss, and unlike a physical illness (broken arm) etc. they are invisible to most. As a teacher I am lucky to have been trained in mental health first aid, I know what signs to look out for and whilst I do not proclaim to be an expert you are right in saying that talking with a friend and letting them know how you are feeling is a very good starting point.
Wishing you continued success on your journey. Remember "Every day is a good day when you are 6 foot above ground"

Take care
Jacquie

 

[Anonymous]

Hello Davie. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles but very pleased to see that you are still around. I too have suffered from depression for the past 30 years without much of a break . What keeps me going is finding a challenge which the majority of people believe cannot be done and then nailing it. I will not say any more because its not good for me to dwell on the subject ,but I really wish you and your family all the best.

 

[Anonymous]

Hi there Davie,
Your words are exactly how I've felt over the last few months, it's amazing how your life can change over night, from being a happy go lucky chap, to thinking (everyday), "lifes now pointless".

Having loving support from family and good friends, then with their support you can start to try and deal with the cause of the depression, in my case it's trying to come to terms with recently finding out I have MS, theres no overnight fix to feeling like you do, but by just talking about how you feel you've already started to put things in place to get back on track.

I'm very good at hiding my emotions, but in fact that can add to the problem, you tend to bottle things up and think no one cares, but the fact is, loved ones and good friends do care and are just as scared as you are, so it's vital that you and your loved ones are there for each other.

It's good to see you are able to now talk about your dark days, being open and being able to talk is a massive help.
I still get down, especially on days where I just cannot do the things that I could in the past, and if I'm honest I'm scared for what lies in the future, but I'm slowly coming to terms with the MS, and in a funny way actually starting to live a happier life, simply by allowing my family and friends get closer.

I wont drone on because I will just get the rest of the forum on a downer :?
I'm pleased that you're starting to feel better, life really is too short, so grasp all the love you can get from your family and friends, and also, as you've already said, spend a few minutes being there for them when they might need you.

Good luck.
Kerry (jactac)

Ps. You've got a decent bunch on here who will listen all day long if you just want to get things off your chest.

 

[Anonymous]

In my earlier post i ntroduced the word depression and the forum opened up.
Its a general term these days and very generic for a host of things that affect people in modern life.
Can be all things to all people and brought on by many symptoms, the main thing is stress.Stress through workplace or money problems, or relationships or even perceived problems that in actual fact dont exist.Its all in the mind
and if you get another person that can relate and talk you through their own experiences then suddenly its a much clearer picture for all.Talk Talk as there is always someone in a darker place.A light comes on and a staircase appears.